There are some instances where advice from friends and family are just not enough, and you need an outside source to help you level your head. Whether you’re flustered about things going on in your daily life, or if you just want to get a little more motivated to do the things that you want, these are the books for you. Some of them get really in-depth about the way we make decisions and the science behind it, and others are meant to help in everyday situations and to give you a reason to want to do better. Feel free to do a bit more research about any of these and see if one would be a good fit for you!
Make Your Bed: Little Things That Can Change Your Life…And Maybe the World – by William H. McRaven
If there ever were a book to make you want to be and do everything you want, then this is it. McRaven takes the tools, skills, and lessons that he used during his SEAL training and applies it in a way that is both captivating and motivational. This is also a book that’s incredibly useful for both adults and children, especially those who are stuck in a place in life, or are in the early stages of starting their careers and are confused on what to do. The lessons that McRaven touches upon are ones that everyone can benefit from, regardless of age. Even if you’re not as tough as a Navy SEAL, there are still lessons to be learned for everyone.
More than your typical “self-help” book, it’s less than 200 pages long, so it is basically nothing in the book world, and it will probably be the best book that you pick up in your life. It’s also only 10 chapters, so take a long weekend or two weeks to pick this book up, and discreetly use it as coffee table decor to spark conversation with future guests! Then you can tell them how productive and motivated the book made you, and how much you’ve learned from it. Subtle gloating isn’t a bad thing!
Originals: How Non-Conformists Move the World -by Adam Grant
While every other self-help or motivational book is telling you to do better and be better, the lessons in Originals are based off of creating a regular internal balance, rather than just changing things in your life, and then hoping that they help your internal state. By working from your mind and moving outwards, there is better reasoning into every decision that you make. You can’t expect to feel better internally if you’re trying to fix external things first… because they’re simply not the same.
Some of the biggest topics that Adam Grant touches upon in Originals is how to know if something is a good idea, choosing the people that you surround yourself with, managing fear and doubt, and much, much more. These may sound simple at first; however, these are some of the concepts on which we build our entire lives and our mental state. Even one of these could change the well-being of a person if it were thrown out of whack, that’s why it’s so important to channel that within ourselves to make sure that we understand the ways in which we process our own thoughts.
Smarter Faster Better: The Transformative Power of Real Productivity – by Charles Duhigg
Charles Duhigg writes about eight key factors of productivity and analyzes each one to our benefit. From writing about concepts like motivation to the art of focusing, to even the way that we individually make decisions, he tells us why we do the things that we do when it comes to these factors. He also uses these eight concept to explain why extremely productive people are the way that they are, including companies and businesses as a whole. What is a little bit different in the way that Duhigg writes this book is that he uses a lot of case studies throughout to prove his point, as well as examples to really drive his point home.
Duhigg drives the point in our head over and over again about how the decisions and choices that we make are the most important things that we do, and we can either choose to do things the easy way and to just make a decision, or really think about the choices that you have, what is at stake, and go from there. We are just as equal to the choices that we make, so take that into consideration with the next big decision that you have to make!
Stick with It: A Scientifically Proven Process for Changing Your Life-for Good – by Sean D. Young
Sean Young is an award-winning psychologist and director of the UCLA Center for Digital Behavior. In his book Stick with It, he shows readers just how to make changes in their lives that are worthwhile. Not only will they be worthwhile, but they will also be long-lasting, as long as they follow them correctly. Whether you want to spend less time on your phone, or if you want to push yourself to go to the gym when you tell yourself that you will, there are ways to make these changes in your mind so that you actually make these changes physically. With exercises for your mind and stories of success built into this book, it shows you how practical and realistic these goals are for you, or anyone who wants to make significant, positive change to their life.
One of his key takeaways for this is that you can’t change a behavior by changing a person, you can do it by changing the process. Dr. Young explains that it is important the emotional change be made in order for meaning to be made in order for the person to carry on that new positive habit. Everything that we do has emotional meaning behind it, so why not tweak it a bit in order to have that same emotional meaning behind new, positive habits that we bring to ourselves?